A Manifesto for Family Healing

A Declaration of Accountability and Revolution To the families I have served, to the system I once upheld, and to the future we must forge together: I declare my complicity in a broken system, and I declare my rebellion against it. For too long, I participated in a machine that profits from pathology, that medicates […]

The Cannonball

This is where we spend most of our summer… My parents built this pool when I was 21. While two of us hadn’t launched yet, three of us had. I asked my dad why they were doing this now, when we were moving out? He said, “So that you come back.” My parents’ vision is […]

The Attitude

My 11-year-old daughter had an attitude… My first thought was yep, right on schedule. Hormones. I remember giving the same attitude to my parents at exactly the same age. My mom told me, “you’re getting too big for your britches.” Kids give their negative feelings to their parents. We are the safe people.They can get […]

Parent Burn Out

The U.S. surgeon general Dr. Vivek Murthy has sounded the alarm on parent burn out and declared it a public health issue. He asserts the parental load is overwhelming due to cultural parenting challenges such as children’s health and safety, social media, and technology as well as uncertainty about their futures. The department of health […]

Surgeon General’s Warning On Social Media

I don’t feel like celebrating the surgeon general’s warning on social media for children. It doesn’t feel like a win to me. 1. It took too long for this issue to come to the mainstream. So much damage done. 2. A win in my book are individual parents standing up and saying, this is wrong, […]

Who’s Really in Charge? The Kids or the Parents?

Most of the parents I work with have the same initial issues with their children with varying degrees of intensity depending on the age. Today’s children are generally, apathetic, avoidant, irresponsible, anxious, addicted to their devices, angry and unmotivated. Their parents, burnt out and exhausted, feel they do so much for their children to make […]

Rewards and Punishments vs. Connection

What is the most effective approach to address negative behavior in children? Is it through rewards, punishments, talking, or even raising one’s voice? As parents, we’ve experimented with all these methods, yet we often find ourselves struggling to see the positive changes we desire in our children. We want to establish a genuine and open […]

Let’s Talk Anxiety. Where Does it Come from and How Can Parents Help Reduce It?

Why is there so much anxiety in the iGeneration? Life is full of uncertainty. Though this experience isn’t limited to any single generation, in the case of the iGeneration, they have experienced a heightened level of economic and macro-cultural change that hasn’t been felt in past decades. This instability, coupled with the legacy of parenting […]

Follow Your Instincts When It Comes to Screen Time This Summer

Are you worried about your kids spending too much time on screens this summer? Summer vacation comes with the freedom from school but also the potential for kids to be glued to their screens. How can children have an enriching summer without too much screentime or battles with parents over devices? Children from zero to […]

Excessive Screen Time Can Lead to Suicidal Outcomes Among Children and Adolescents

When devices are present, we lose human connection. Social media, the internet, and apps are available to keep us connected when we cannot be together due to distance or location. These cannot replace real human connection. Misuse leads to unintended consequences that are detrimental to child and adolescent mental health. As a whole, mental health […]